Yet another conversation on the same old topic - Relationships, with my male colleagues has left me questioning. Why is it that we, girls, end up looking needy and pathetic in certain scenarios? But before I start, let me make it clear - I am discounting the actual clingy females who are by the way, fairly needy and pathetic! In this context, we have girls, in relationship, fairly ok with the idea of "giving space" and leading individual lives.
So with this demographics in mind, I'll put across this situation. I am staying in the same city as my boyfriend and both of us living fairly close-by. He's loaded with work and studies. So we decided we don't need to meet daily. Everything is fine till here. But then the aforesaid boyfriend does manage to take time out for some sports during the day on most days (around 90% of the time), which again I don't mind, one always needs something to unwind, you see.
Now it has been 10 days since we met and I really feel like meeting up with him today. But he says he can't coz of the usual work and studies. However, he does manage to take time off for his usual quota of sports.
Now my problem with this scenario is thus -
So with this demographics in mind, I'll put across this situation. I am staying in the same city as my boyfriend and both of us living fairly close-by. He's loaded with work and studies. So we decided we don't need to meet daily. Everything is fine till here. But then the aforesaid boyfriend does manage to take time out for some sports during the day on most days (around 90% of the time), which again I don't mind, one always needs something to unwind, you see.
Now it has been 10 days since we met and I really feel like meeting up with him today. But he says he can't coz of the usual work and studies. However, he does manage to take time off for his usual quota of sports.
Now my problem with this scenario is thus -
- If it has been 10 days since the girl met the guy, it is of course 10 days since the guy met the girl too. So how come he doesn't feel like meeting yet?
- The fact that they are in a relationship gives him the liberty to not meet for 10 days and still be in one. But shouldn't being in a relationship also make him/her make allowance for some time for the other person? Does being in a relationship give someone the ticket to take things for granted?
- I am sure many guys, in relationships, have thousands of times proclaimed, how they miss the girls. So why does a request like this from the girl, get her a tag of being needy/clingy?
Answers please!
P.S - The resemblance to any person living or dead is purely co-incidental! :P
12 comments:
It is called going into a cave for guys: read that "Men are from Mars" book.
@ Sudipta - Oh ! I have..its purest crap I have ever had the misfortune of coming across! :P
Ellie- Great Job. I must say you put across a very important question worded beautifully.
Its a mystery to me as well.. that the men have the most major excuse of not sharing the emotional pies of their lives stating that we are men...and thus we dont have an emotional side.
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Simply- Cmon yaar...you knew that I have always been like that so why are you cribbing now?
I think its the typical 'we are males, therefore we take for granted everything' syndrome.
The reason behind this is also us the women... The mom will be up till late for her son so that he doesnt sleep hungry...instead of thrashing him and asking about his whereabouts...
The sister too will cover up for her brother....
the girlfriends and wifes... they also assume the roles and pick up after their male counterparts.... be it their towels or dirty laundry.
I think that the girls should become a little more stringent... do what my best friend does... like him doesnt give a damn...!!! but in some cases it might backfire..so use it at your own discreation and caution...
this is a hypothetical story , right? ;)
coz i want to comment on how the 'day time sports only' had me in splits,
but i otherwise cant :D
@ Sakshi - You bet. But I am not even gettin into that. The basic conundrum here is just "how much space is enough space and when does it become distance!"
@ Amlan - I am not the part of the story :p So go on! And btw ...jus a manner of saying - I havent said anything about "day time sports!" which is 180 degrees from "sports during the day!"
Kya re tu bhi frustapa nikaal raha hai! :D
well.. for the last 15 minutes i have been trying to post a comment... but sincerely I find nothing suitable to comment here... to me this doesn't even appear to be a problem.
....'poor guy'.
@Ach - As my post ponders - the problem is with perception! :)
Enjoy ur singlehood dood...:p
LOL. nevermind.
and whats with the livefeed to the right? its scary!
hhehehe..in case of future MACs...u never know! :)
Ellie- As far as the question of how much space is space and how much is distance...
Then it depends upon the relationship and upon the two people who are involved.
For some people giving too much dheel also doesnt matter and for some its a very tight ship to run...!!!
i thought of something really chauvinistic to say and i suddenly realise this isnt the best place to say it.
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